They say that femininity is sweet to the taste
and too delicate to choke on.
It is a platter of cucumber finger sandwiches
and lukewarm tea served with sugar cubes
decoratively catered to the Male Gaze.
You, girl, are an edible doll.
Soft on the stomach, primed and proper to devour,
the only thing to satisfy a sweet tooth as well as a bored hand.
And you were always taught not to play with your food
but that didn’t stop him from making you desert.
You are the epitome of finger food,
your worth designed to be unraveled like licorice twists,
candy coated in curtseys, blush, low self-esteem,
and poisoned pastel femininity—
you delectable, delicate, porcelain machine.
You only let yourself bleed in pink.
As fingerprints are exchanged for your “purity”
you must melt on his tongue like chocolate
and always smile with your teeth—
nice girls don’t shatter on display for the world to see!
And you should always be sweet like frosting
and convenient like a dinner mint
and only cry tears of glitter and confetti.
Your suffering is a bittersweet delicacy,
Like sprinkles, add just enough but not too much!
You are too much, girl.
Mourn your body in silence and bow defeatedly to frailty.
Cry in such a way that they still love you
and fall apart softly like angel food cake.
Because if boys will be boys, then girls will be play things.
© Copyright Samantha Rose 2018
You can catch more of Samantha existing at her blog, Existential Poetry.
Goodness me, what a delicious poem.
So many brilliant lines…. nice girls don’t shatter on display for the world to see…they fall apart softly…
Good girls don’t cry, hun?
I love the criticism behind but mind you, delicate roses have lots of sharp thorns too. So if they know how to use them, femininity would just mean feeling good in your own skin.
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Thank you so much. You are spot on.
I completely agree, and just to clarify, I’m all for critiquing socially accepted standards of traditional femininity and the narrow ways in which we expect women to deal with trauma, but femininity can absolutely be powerful, because women are powerful. Femininity is amorphous and interpretive, and women should have the agency to feel good in their own skin and to live and process life in a way that suites them – even if it’s not aesthetically pleasing.
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And I love how you handled the subject. I criticize it often myself but to talk about it in a poem with such powerful images and bitter sarcasm was quite a challange and you rose to it marvelously, my dear. Please, keep surprising us. What I love about your poetry is not only the social involvement, sth that’s very close to me, but also this element of surprise. There’s a book before me. I know it’s good but I have no idea what to expect…You’re not only one book, Sam, you’re a whole bookstore.
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Wow, thank you. I think both of us seem to have a thing for social criticism via sarcasm and irony. I find it makes people think about everyday issues from a different perspective.
Once again, thank you, that’s a powerful compliment.
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You’re welcome.
The greatest compliment is when people tell you it made them think.
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Holy fucking crap…..this is Brilliant, Sam!!!!! It’s one of those poems I read and kept holding my breath because the lines and the flavor of it are so good!!!! I am in awe of your talent!!!!!
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Ah Susan. What a compliment!!
Thank you so much and I am in awe of everything you write. Thank you for your constant support and and encouragement ❤️
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Is that you on VV?
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It is not! But I do have been meaning to tell you that I got something published with the Feminine Collective, and I’m planning on posting the link tomorrow!
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Oh Sam, I am so thrilled for you!!!!! I have been awaiting this day with great anticipation!!!!
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Thank you so much! You are absolutely my inspiration ❤️
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Aw! Thank you!
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I love your creative and witty response to societal female expectations of how a “proper female” should act.
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Thank you so much! Feminism serves as a muse for me far too often.
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Beautiful, extremely powerful imagery
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Thank you! ❤️
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